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With the advent of social media, the intrusion of the Internet and media outlets, it is rapidly becoming almost impossible to create and maintain quality relationships – especially face-to-face relationships. Are you putting up with others constantly on their cell phones, texting, being interrupted by social media, glued to the television or never getting a call back?

Forming quality relationships is a very real problem for many people but it is magnified by the challenge of competing with so much technology and electronic intrusion. The way modern-day relationships have changed is so important that it continues to be one of the most talked about issues on daytime television.

Begin Your Journey to Quality Relationships Today

Having quality relationships whether with family, friends, associates or coworkers is an important part of a balanced life. Humans have a built-in need to feel connected, loved, and appreciated for who they are and to be bonded with others. By acknowledging that the creation and maintenance of meaningful personal relationships is uncomfortable or getting more difficult, you have started the journey to better connections.

Sometimes there are recognizable patterns of having the same set of circumstances repeat every time you get together with certain friends or family members. By the time you part company you feel hurt, envious or rejected. In other situations, there is always a confrontation with a family member over what seems like nothing – or, a similar interaction takes place with a friend and you go home feeling unwanted and unappreciated. Relationships become further taxed when you add interruptions by social media, television and the Internet.

By recognizing there is a problem you become aware of the fact that the failed or poor relationship is as much about you as it is the other person. You are the one with the feelings of rejection, envy and resentment, not the others involved in the interaction. It is a well-known fact that you cannot change how others feel and act but you can change how you feel, act and react to them.

The Secret is using Feng Shui

Using Feng Shui principles can work wonders in relationship building. Feng Shui has many definitions, some formal and some not, but for me it is all about the use of positive energy to bring about your desired result.

Focus energy on what you want. Never focus on what you do not want in your relationships because that is exactly what you will get. A basic Feng Shui principle is: what you focus on is what you will attract. To create good relationships shift your focus, thinking and actions to how good your relationships are or will be; not how bad they are. Clearly visualize a gathering where you leave feeling really good about spending time together with family or friends – an event where you are spending quality time together without any interruptions, electronic or otherwise, and you will make it happen. You can do this in an instant right before you head out to meet friends or right before the family arrives at your doorstep.

Love yourself. Unclutter and energize the southwest relationship area of your bedroom and living/family room. In each room place a vase in that space with two silk flowers of equal size and equal height. One represents the outer you and the other represents that beautiful person within that wants you to recognize how very special you are. Every time you go to bed at night and get up in the morning look first at those flowers and say to yourself “I love me.” Your self-respect and appreciation for who you are will grow by leaps and bounds.

Whenever you are out with family or friends and something crops up that starts you headed toward your old feelings of resentment, envy and rejection think of your flowers and say to yourself “I love me.” The flowers will give you the positive reinforcement you need to eliminate the negative feelings so you can have a pleasant ending to your outing.

Energize new healthy beginnings. Place a healthy green upward reaching plant in the east area of your bedroom. Yes, you can use a quality silk plant if your green thumb doesn’t work well. This will focus energy on healthy new beginnings and new relationships with both yourself and others. Like the plant, you will grow, thrive and mature and so will your love and respect for self. At the same time your relationships with others will blossom.

Feng Shui principles work and are especially effective when focused on improving relationships both with yourself and others. Now is the time to get rid of all those negative past experiences and the negative thoughts regarding your relationships and create meaningful equal relationships that will last a lifetime.

© Pat Heydlauff, All Rights Reserved

Pat Heydlauff, president of Energy Design, uses Feng Shui design principles to eliminate chaos and stress at home and within oneself. More than a Feng Shui expert, Pat is a consultant and speaker who helps remove clutter and negativity while encouraging personal growth, improved relationships and prosperity. Her new book, “Feng Shui: So Easy a Child Can Do It,” shows how to achieve a better tomorrow. For information on her consulting, speaking and artwork, call: 561-408-2708.

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